Bonus: a happy, confident, fulfilled individual is an attractive one. The proverbial pool has shrunk, with more of your peers in long-term relationships or marriages, and with your social circle feeling smaller.
(You probably don’t attend a weekly pub night with your sorority sisters anymore.) With fewer fish to choose from — and likely a busier schedule that keeps you from leisurely bumping into Mrs. Right — now is a good time to give online dating a shot. Say goodbye to the rules, the formulas and the ticking clocks.
Matchmaking sites can let you be specific about who you’re looking for and what kind of relationship you’re seeking. It’s okay to desire marriage and a family, but you can’t go on a date accessorized with the desperate pressure to settle down.
More important than getting married or raising children is being with the right person. Right Now, and don’t scare off a great gal with your impatience. With age comes wisdom; you’ve learned from past mistakes and now know what you need in a relationship and what you have to offer.
Here’s a short guide to dating after your 30th birthday. You’re likely to have a better perspective of dating than you did in your infatuated teen years.
In your thirties, you’re cultivating friendships, passions, and a career. Know what you want; not just from a relationship, but from life.
Old guys aren't my thing, but every time I ask my 30-something boyfriend to talk seriously about our future or shuffle through his apartment that has empty pizza boxes stacked on the dining room table, I can see the advantages of having had someone else remove the training wheels. "From an early age I just found older men to seem reliable and supportive. Bush (he was president at the time) was the most handsome man in the world.
Megan's quick-witted retort is to rattle off the names of male celebrities who are sexagenarians, septuagenarians, and even octogenarians who you would probably sleep with: Harrison Ford, 71, Clint Eastwood, 83, Jack Nicholson, 76, Robert Redford, 77.I'm 33, Megan is 37, and the majority of the guests who were not relatives of the bride or groom fell somewhere squarely in between.Recently recovering from a relationship with a 65-year-old celebrity plastic surgeon in Los Angeles, Megan arrived to the wedding weekend licking her wounds, only to immediately be courted by the 72-year old uncle of the groom. Uncle Jack was away somewhere in France, but the mother of the groom put the kibosh on the whole thing.If your date hates children and you want six of them, the relationship has little long-term potential.Just as life didn’t end when you turned 30, it won’t end at 40 or 50 either.