Dating another grad student
Realizing that the type of degree someone holds has a clear impact on their attractiveness, I was curious if there is a distinctive way people with different degrees present themselves on their profiles.Are there words or phrases that are commonly used amongst bagels with Ph Ds?My basic stand was, and is, that whether or not a relationship within a department is a good idea, the common wisdom seems to advise women away from such relationship far more strongly than it does men.There is a perception/fear/reality that a woman entering into such a relationship will be plagued in her future with doubts at every step about whether her accomplishments are her own, or due to who she is partnered with. There is too much of a power relationship in the game. At the other extreme is a grad student dating a faculty member in a different field (possibly at a different university). The specifics involved a female grad student dating a male professor (not on her committee) in the department.I'd like to flesh out my thoughts on the matter a bit more here.Our members with Ph Ds mentioned a bunch of words relating to academics, which makes sense.
What it looks like is that more general degrees (i.e., Ph D, Master’s, Bachelor’s) are getting liked the least, which I think might have to do with their lack of specificity — you could be studying anything from dance to chemical engineering, so your area of study is probably more important to bagels than your level of degree.We loved how Ok Cupid conducted a similar study (but with race), so we emulated their methodology in this study. FYI – For those of you who are not familiar with Coffee Meets Bagel, here’s an example of what a member’s profile looks like on Coffee Meets Bagel (this is mine).We looked at all of our users who have a Ph D’s profiles and isolated words and phrases in their profiles that were used most frequently. The words used in the last three sections of the profile are what we used for this study.Then there are the middle cases concerning whether or not the faculty member is in the same subfield as the grad student and whether or not they are housed at the same university as the grad student.In either of the same department cases, there is a concern of what happens if the relationship breaks up badly.